THE SHAPE OF ANGER - Part I

Greetings again everyone,

Today, I wish to write and share some deeper truths relative to anger which the Lord has been sharing with me over the past few weeks. My prayer is that the following discussion is, if not more, life-changing and revolutionary for you as it was for me and those I've already shared part of it with. Moreover, this is not an exhaustive study on the subject. However, I do believe it is a sound biblical study relative to the walk of faith and spiritual maturity.

Now, allow me to say this first - you don't have to have (or think you don't have) a problem with anger to receive some very real personal enlightenment from this discussion. It is the Word of God and it is life for your spirit man. Consequently, what we need most from God He's already provided for us in His Word. Trust me, all of us can be better people, more like Christ that is, in more ways than we know or are willing to admit. Therefore, before you read any further, either pray and/or suspend any inner defenses against this topic. God bless you. Let's get started.

To begin, let's observe a biblical definition of anger.

ANGER - (1) A feeling of great annoyance or antagonism as the result of some real or alleged grievance. Rage. Wrath. (2) The emotion of instant displeasure on account of something evil that presents itself in our view. In itself it is an original susceptibility of our nature, just as love is, and is not necessarily sinful. It does, however, become sinful when causeless, or excessive, or protracted (Matt. 5:22; Eph. 4:26; Col. 3:8). As ascribed to God, it merely denotes his displeasure with sin.

This definition reveals that anger is inner emotional excitement toward something negative or perceived as negative. Therefore, anger, in and of itself is not wrong. In fact, God created us, like He is, with the capacity and ability to experience this emotion. As a matter of fact, the scripture even tells us that anger is sometimes acceptable. Ephesians 4:26 - Be ye angry and sin not... In this verse, the 'be ye angry' part speaks of the idea of acceptable anger. Literally, the allowance of anger over sin and sinful things (e.g. lying, murder, idolatry, pride, etc.) which happen that God would become angry about. A summative thought would be: Anger over any sinful force which comes against the interests of God. Anger over such things God considers acceptable. However, the 'and sin not' part suggests that even acceptable anger can become sin at a certain point. Remember, all sin is against God. You cannot sin against a person and not be sinning against God simultaneously. This would also be true when your anger toward a person or object becomes sin, now you’re at offense with God.

So, when exactly does anger become sin? The answer is simple, yet substantive. It involves anger's purpose, extent, and length. We’ll review each of these in detail. Note that the definition of anger (shown above) reveals that anger becomes sin when it is – causeless (unjust), excessive, and/or prolonged. To be sin, it can be either, all, or a combination of these. Lets talk about the first component - purpose.

I. PURPOSE: anger with or without a right (just) cause
Matthew 5:21-22a - Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. Jesus spoke this statement while delivering His famous sermon on the mount. It consumes three chapters (5-7) in Matthew’s gospel account. Here Jesus tells His disciples that murder was judged and punishable by God in the Old Testament (OT) under the law. However, now under the New Testament (NT), any causeless (e.g. unjust) anger or hatred toward a person is liable to God’s judgment and punishment. The ‘brother’ in the verse means neighbor; or basically anyone. So in the OT it was the murderous act that was subject to God's judgment, but now, in the NT, it is the unjust anger (e.g. murderous attitude) and heart that is subject to God's judgment. To God, unjust anger is like hatred, then murder. So let’s be clear, any anger established which is of a cause that God wouldn’t have is causeless. Yes, you may have a cause for it, but would that be God’s cause? Moreover, the emphasis is on the purpose for the anger. If there is no real reason, it is sin. If the reason is faulty; something which God is not offended by, it is sin. This even includes something as simple as road rage. [Lol - This was something I almost had yesterday while driving behind some slow drivers on the Interstate]. Therefore, right at the beginning of our anger over something there are a few questions we might quickly consider asking ourselves to ensure our purpose is right.

(1) Why or what am I really getting angry about?
(2) Am I getting angry at more than I'm admitting?
(3) Do I have to become angry? Am I really getting angry only to protect my right to get angry? Your right to anger ends when disobedience (e.g. unjust anger) begins. Therefore, it's not a right you're protecting now, but a wrong you're protecting.
(4) Am I hurt? NOTE: You can be hurt and not necessarily angry, but you cannot be angry and not hurt.
(5) Am I angry at a person(s) or an act(s)? If either, is it the right person(s) or act(s)?
(6) Was the act a sin? Is God or would God get angry about this? If it is not a sin you should be wary about becoming angry. God has a track record of only getting angry over sin. We are made like Him and have what it takes to express Him.

Proverbs 14:17 - He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated. Ecclesiastes 7:9 - Do not be eager in your heart to be angry, For anger resides in the bosom of fools (NASB). Adam Clarke's Commentary asserts, "Dealeth foolishly - He has no time for reflection; he is hurried on by his passions, speaks like a fool, and acts like a madman. Anger resteth in the bosom of fools - A wise man, off his guard, may feel it for a moment: but in him it cannot rest: it is a fire which he immediately casts out of his breast. But the fool - the man who is under the dominion of his own tempers, harbors and fosters it, till it takes the form of malice, and then excites him to seek full revenge on those whom he deems enemies."

Finally, do you have a history of getting angry too quickly or too often? Be honest with yourself and God. It also may be a good idea to ask a trusted friend, partner, or relative of whom you have significant history if your view of your temperament is accurate. Even still, everyone should determine their anger frequency? Do you find yourself becoming angry a few times a year, a few times a month, a few times a week, a few times day, etc. No matter what the reason, if you are quickly or frequently angered then your state is clear in scripture. This may be a challenging word, but Prov. 14:17 and Eccl. 7:9 (shown above) calls such person a fool. However, if that is you, don't feel bad for one moment, there is good news. You don't have to remain that way. God is not mad at you, but desires to help and bless you greatly! A lot of people have anger problems but don't know it. They haven't evaluated themselves against the scriptures. Typically, anger problems suggests a deeper issue(s); perhaps some unresolved or unhealed areas in your past that need God's healing treatment. God will help you speedily if you desire. Pray and ask Him to show you YOU and help you recover. Praise God! Trust me, there is really no need to feel bad. Besides, all people at one time or another have acted foolishly.

Part II next...