THE SHAPE OF ANGER - Part II

II. EXTENT: the level/intensity of anger
Now, further reviewing the scripture noted in Part I, Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath." We've already looked at the "a" part of this verse (above); now let's examine the "b" part. As I noted in Part I, 'and sin not' reveals that even acceptable anger can become sin if its extent or expression is not tapered. Anger should not become excessive or overly extreme. If it does, it has become sin.

- If anger consumes your thoughts, impairs your judgment, or severely impacts your actions, then you've allowed it to become excessive. God did not originally create mankind to be consumed with anger. See the Ecclesiastes 7:9 discussion in Part I.

- If anger begins to negatively affect your health or physical body then you've allowed it to become excessive. Is preserving your anger more important than preserving your health?

- If you strike, curse, or begin to hate someone or something, then it's excessive. Hatred is the end result of undiluted anger. You cannot love and hate at the same time. Many, many wars, fightings, and contentions among mankind have continued for centuries because of ill-advised anger leading the hearts of men. Some contentions have even been passed from generation to generation. Long-standing family feuds, community feuds, church or religious feuds, political feuds, and such like all stem from some unhealthy anger. Where is the burying of hatchets for the sake of peace and prosperity of the whole?

- If you are mentally developing plans to take revenge or retaliate, then it is excessive. Constant payback-like thinking reveals an unjust anger level. Vengeance belongs to the Lord. He does the repaying. You cannot try and force a harvest by your hands for a negative seed sown in your life by someone else. Allow God time and room to deal choicely with those that have purposely sinned against you. God withholds judgment on them until your retaliation efforts are deferred. Your response to what happens to you is crucial in determining the ultimate outcome. NOTE: God does not punish people for accidental wrongs or wrongs committed ignorantly. They’re called mistakes and you make them too. Only what was intentional and premeditated can be considered a seed sown. Is this not what the farmer does when planting crops for a harvest? It’s an intentional work.

- If you begin to not care about the object of your anger then it's become excessive. To purposely not care about an object, particularly a person, is hatred. Utter disgust. In this state, your anger has become sin. Even worse, hatred in the NT is considered murder (I John 3:15).

Now, in conjunctions with the above evaluations, if we've judged our anger to be of the right purpose, there are at least a couple of questions we might quickly consider asking ourselves to ensure we don't go overboard.

(1) Can I be less angry? If so, what can I do to calm down? Reading scripture, taking a quick deep breath, and/or a temporary removal from the situation are all ideas that could help you calm down. There are hosts of other things too you might do to achieve the same. Know yourself and do what works, although seek God for the best means. God did not intend for mankind to quickly or frequently be in a state of anger. If this is you, be prayerful so God can heal and instruct you about you. Undoubtedly, this is a sign that something deeper may be the culprit. Sometimes unresolved items, even from childhood, may lie dormant until the right environment allows it expression.

(2) What did or am I doing (or omitting to do) to remain angry at this level? People really cannot make us angry; it is a choice we make. Determine what you’re doing or not doing to maintain that level of anger. When discovered, change it for your own good. Nonetheless, usually rehearsal, exaggeration, or assumptive thinking are the culprits.

Part III next...