THE SHAPE OF ANGER - Part III

III. LENGTH: how long can you be angry
Ephesians 4:26 - Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.

Now, continuing on our discussion of part 'b' of this verse: "let not the sun go down upon your wrath", let's briefly review the commentary of theologians Albert Barnes, Adam Clarke, and John Gill before we dive deeper into the scripture.

[A. Barnes] Let not the sun go down - Do not cherish anger. Do not sleep upon it. Do not harbor a purpose of revenge; do not cherish ill-will against another. “When the sun sets on a man’s anger, he may be sure it is wrong.” The meaning of the whole of this verse then is, “If you be angry, which may be the case, and which may be unavoidable, see that the sudden excitement does not become sin. Do not let it overleap its proper bounds; do not cherish it; do not let it remain in your bosom even to the setting of the sun. Though the sun be sinking in the west, let not the passion linger in the bosom, but let his last rays find you always peaceful and calm.”

[A. Clarke] Let not the sun go down upon your wrath - That is: If you do get angry with any one, see that the fire be cast with the utmost speed out of your bosom. Do not go to sleep with any unkind or unbrotherly feeling; anger, continued in, may produce malice and revenge. No temper of this kind can consist with peace of conscience and the approbation of God’s Spirit in the soul.

[J. Gill] Let not the sun go down upon your wrath - there is there is an allusion to  Deut.24:10 it seems to be a proverbial expression; and the design of it is to show, that anger should not be continued; that it should not last at furthest more than a day; that when the heat of the day is over, the heat of anger should be over likewise; and that we should not sleep with it, lest it should be cherished and increased upon our pillows; and besides, the time of the going down of the sun, is the time of evening prayer, which may be greatly interrupted and hindered by anger.

This part of the verse continues to embellish what we discussed in Part II. The extent of one's anger must be evaluated in order not to carry over into sin. To surmise, this part of the verse communicates the following:

• One should not allow anger to transfer from day to day. If so, it is sin. Reconciliation should take place immediately, in the same day, if possible. God dealt with Adam's sin in the garden quickly (Genesis 3). Since Adam and God usually walked in the cool of the day together in fellowship, when Adam sinned, God noticed it, and reconciled with him by the blood (e.g. coats of skin) immediately- the same day. God set the precedent in the beginning. He didn't linger in anger for days, weeks, months, or years before He covered them. We are too slow to reverse anger and attempt real reconciliation with others. There is a severe risk of going way overboard when you hold on to anger. Things are going to happen so you don't need to be overcome today because you've got yesterday's anger resting in your bosom. Anger will then be compounded and multiplied over several negative things. This is certainly not the will of God for anyone. It'll surely create more leverage for the devil in your life. Moreover, oftentimes people struggle to forgive because they struggle to reduce, then release anger. They carry too much too long. Are you doing this now? Think about this- God's mercies are new every morning toward us. He does not hold on to anger from day to day, particularly, once sin has been confessed. God also doesn't get mad again today about the sins you committed yesterday. Re-anger, unless the offense was re-committed, is not in God's nature. It is also not in your new nature as a believer. Furthermore, with God, everyday is a new opportunity for you to get it right. We should demonstrate the same with others. Of course, if it's a severe situation you may need to remove yourself from it for safety reasons. However, the removal of yourself does not exclude you from the proper management of anger. The Biblical principle is clear: The same grace and mercy extended to you everyday MUST be freely given to others who sin against you. If not, rest assured - it is sin and now you're liable to God's judgment and correction. Besides, some of what happens to us, that we consider unfair or unjust, is because we been so unfair and unjust to others. We remember when we were treated or responded to unfairly, but fail to recall our unfairness or unjust interactions with others. Unfortunately, the harvest will not be a one to one match. That's not how seedtime and harvest works. The harvest is always larger than the seed. If fact, in agriculture, the seed and the harvested crop may only be similar in color, if at all. Paul reminded us in Galatians 6:7 that God oversees sowing and reaping and to think that He doesn't, is like mocking Him. With all that said, in our flesh (e.g. old man/old nature/ wicked heart) there is a real temptation to continue in anger sometimes; especially if we feel greatly offended. This is understandable both by God and people. However, this temptation has to be overcome with God's help. So, since you will get offended at one point or another, know that God will help you to obey Him when it does happen. Anger must be put away before another day begins. We must not enter another day angry at anyone.
• In most cases, we are still angry with people when God is not. God is slow to anger and when or if He does become angry, He doesn't retain it. This is especially true for His children (e.g. believers). In this case, you can be sure that if you're still angry with them, it is sin. The length of your anger has went beyond what's acceptable by Heaven. How could you be more angry than God and all wrong is ultimately against Him? Are you more important than Him? God forbid you to think or act like it. If God is not angry (or no longer) with them neither should you be. In most cases, you don't know what the status of the other person's relationship with God is. They may've confessed the sin against you and are now on the road of repentance with God. Allow people the same time to repent that you want. Master anger and release people and free yourself. You cannot tie someone else down to a past wrong and not also be tying yourself down. What robber ties up both the victim and himself? Think about it.
• When anger is being held on to it is being cherished. The flesh (e.g. old man/old nature/ wicked heart) will cherish what it likes. This is severely troubling because we should really only cherish God and people. Not even tangible things are that important. Notwithstanding, this sort of cherishing, as theologian J.Gill points out (see above), is why we should not go to bed for the night angry at anyone. Your flesh actually values unjust anger because it gratifies (e.g. satisfies) both itself and the devil. Moreover, God is glorified by what's generated from your revived spirit. Satan is gratified by the wickedness of the flesh. Now, please carefully consider the following definition and synonyms for cherish: (1) to hold on or treat as dear, (2) to care for tenderly as a child, and (3) to cling to fondly. Foster. Harbor. Cherish, foster, harbor each imply giving affection, care, or shelter to something. Cherish suggests regarding or treating something as an object of affection or as valuable: to cherish a friendship. Foster implies sustaining and nourishing something with care, especially in order to promote, increase, or strengthen it: to foster a hope; to foster enmity. Harbor suggests giving shelter to or entertaining something undesirable, especially evil thoughts or intentions: to harbor malice or a grudge. Nurse. Nourish. Sustain. Treasure. NONE OF THIS SHOULD, IN WILDEST STRETCH OF THE IMAGINATION, BE ASSOCIATED WITH A BELIEVER'S ANGER. Unfortunately, the flesh is wicked and completely deceitful. Unjust, lengthy anger is deceptive. Be not deceived any longer. God will help you every time.
• Throughout the Bible, night- the period when the sun has gone down, is seen as a period of time when evil is manifested. "Let not the sun go down upon your wrath" reveals a great proverb. Darkness is associated with evil while Light with righteousness. Although metaphoric and proverbial, the underlying ideal is clear: When you allow anger to continue and linger you've now entered into a 'spiritual nighttime' state in relation to the offense. Now, Satan is skilled in and at darkness. He's a professional. Even in hell there is no light. Additionally, before God said, "let there be light", Satan was here on earth with his fallen company of angels in total darkness. Consequently, as we see or operate better in light, Satan actually sees or operates better in darkness. Sin is darkness. Unexpired anger is unjust and darkness. Hatred or contempt is darkness. All kinds of evil imaginations and ideas are conceived, then birthed, in darkness. Anger shifts levels up toward hatred. Be watchful. Revenging thoughts reveal that your anger has shifted to darkness. However, forgiveness and release happens in the light of God's love. Reel your anger inside the house of forgiveness and release before it gets dark. As it is with Day and Night, darkness is sure to come before long.

Along with talking to God, here are a few questions you might quickly consider asking yourself to ensure you don't hold on to anger too long:

(1) How long have I been angry? This is the most important question. Time is of the essence. You don't have time to investigate everything about the offense if you're going to release it. Of course, you need to clearly understand what happened, but the lengths some take to get there is not productive. You really don't need to know all the details of a wrong. It's the 'rights' that you want to stick. We discussed in an earlier part that rehearsal and review of a wrong is non-valuable.
(2) Why have I been angry this long? Is it a repetitive act that's occurring against me? Is it a fact or is my perception drawing conclusions? Am I just holding on because I think I have a right to? Be honest with yourself if you want honest progress. As always, be prayerful more about you than the offender.
(3) If it's been over a day, week, month, etc. and I'm still angry, do I want to be un-angry? The best answer is yes. However, if no, then just be aware of the things we've mentioned above and thus far in this blog series. God's judgment may now be pending for you in diverse forms. See the parable of the Unforgiving Servant in Matthew 18:23-35.
(4) If the answer to #3 is yes, then what should I do today to release this anger? This is an emergency. Approach God in prayer and listen and be watchful for His answer and direction. Also, seek professional counseling if necessary. Some suggests communication with the offender. Nothing long and drawn out, but basically letting them know that you're not angry any more with them and that you've forgiven them. This is usually important in close relationships. People (and you too) need to know by words and complementary actions that others are not angry with them anyone. God even told us such through His word; particularly with the Israelites of the Old Testament. He told them through the mouth of some prophet every time He forgave them. Conversely, such talks are not always necessary. Some wrongs are minor (e.g. minimal effects on minimal components) and shouldn't require it. Interestingly though, it does highlight the fact that you've been angry a while over something minor. Even still, you can release your anger, forgive, and move on without such talks right off. Again, God set a forgiving plan in motion for us through Christ before we were even born. We read it in the Bible, but its after the fact for the New Testament believer. Finally, such talks may even be impractical or unreasonable depending upon the nature and specifics of the offense. Be wise in your dealings.
(5) Let this renew your mind about how you interact with anger. Never suspect yourself to be above falling in this area. Conversely, if you do fall, you still have a responsibility to get up and regain your stance. You cannot be unjustly angry and justly forgive. RELEASE, FORGIVE, and LIVE again. God wants to help you more than know. He wants you better, much better.